By: Laura Bishop, Regular Contributor
Have you ever stayed in a situation because you were afraid there wasn’t anything better out there? Like a job, or a relationship? I certainly have. Then one day I was encouraged to try something different, and the result was incredibly empowering.
Change can be terrifying. It throws me off, makes me crazy, and keeps me emotionally stunted. I have wasted so much time staying in situations that did not benefit me because I was comfortable being uncomfortable, and I didn’t believe I deserved anything better. Following a particularly stressful time at my previous job, one in which I wasn’t being fulfilled or challenged, or even supported by my boss, I decided to take action. I imagined my ideal job and made a list of what it would take to make me happy. After that, I meditated in hopes of manifesting the “perfect” situation for myself, and then I let it go. A few weeks later, I got a call from a friend of mine whose company was looking to hire. I had admired the work this place was doing and decided to apply. However, I didn’t jump at the opportunity. Instead, I spent a good week preoccupied with the what-ifs, finding myself, yet again, in fear of the unknown. During this time, I reached out to a girlfriend who has always provided me with the best advice (hopefully all of you have one of those girls in your life). She reminded me that I have the choice to move forward or to remain stuck.
My life changed once I walked through that fear and took a chance on myself. So often, my focus is on what other people need at the expense of what is best for me. And then I find myself in an unhappy situation, walking around with resentments and feeling stuck. As scary as it was to leave the comfort of a salaried position for something part-time, I decided to give it a shot because I could sense there was something better out there for me.
Taking chances should be an integral part of life. After I took that job, and watched how beautifully everything unfolded, I began to look at other areas of my life that required some risk-taking. I decided to walk away from a romantic entanglement that was causing me a great deal of pain. I also looked long and hard at some toxic friendships and decided that it was time for those to come to an end as well. I’m not saying to clean house and get rid of everything that may be challenging. How we handle those difficult life situations makes us stronger. All I’m hoping for is that everyone has the courage to take a chance, despite what may or may not happen. Tell that special person you have feelings for them or apply to graduate school. Whatever your dream may be, reach for it. I promise it will be the best thing you ever do for yourself.
What are you afraid of and how is that fear holding you back? Make a list of at least three things that you want to put some effort into changing. See past the fear of the unknown or discomfort and take a few small steps to make change happen! Tell us what you discovered here!
Laura is a Bay Area native, with a master’s degree in counseling/psychology. She loves helping others become the best versions of themselves. When she’s not working with clients, she can be found spending time with friends and family (especially her little goddaughter), practicing yoga, hiking, and baking cupcakes. She considers it an honor and a privilege to share her voice with the IATG community.
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