Friendship in Romance

By: Megan Minutillo, IATG ContributorSeptember 19, 2016


Friendship in Romance.
Friendship in Romance.
Say it with me. Friendship. In. Romance.

See, the two are not mutually exclusive, and yet there are one too many times when we forget about that aspect of our marriages, our relationships, our partnerships.

The person whom you call your lover should also be your friend.
Ya dig?

My parents have been married for thirty-six years. THIRTY SIX YEARS.

And you know what? If you ask my mother or my father who their best friend is, they’ll say one another.

I used to think that was crazy.

I’m starting to think that’s the secret.

Lovers should be friends.

Whether it’s your boyfriend or husband, girlfriend or wife, the most beautiful relationships I have seen are ones that are founded in friendship and in love.

The most beautiful relationships I have seen and experienced are the ones that bring out the best qualities in one another.

My boyfriend is my friend.

He pushes me to my limits. He catches me when I fall. He tells me I’m crazy when I need to hear it. He tells me to fight harder when I need to hear it. He makes me laugh more than anyone I have ever met. He urges me to try things that I never dreamed of doing.

He’s taught me how to be comfortable in silence.
He is my friend.

And that’s not to say that my best friends,the girlfriends that I’ve known since I was ten years old, aren’t my friends, either. They know the inside of my heart in ways that I cannot ever explain. But it’s a different sort of knowledge, a different sort of understanding. See, there’s a power in female relationships that cannot be replicated, but there’s something refreshing about finding a partner whom you can call a companion as well as a lover.

Friendship in Romance.
The two are not mutually exclusive.
I promise.


Let’s Chat!

Try and bring a little more friendship in your romantic life this week! Talk to your partner like a friend or simply go on a sillier date than usual.

About Megan:

Megan_M.jpgMegan Minutillo is a playwright, director, and founder of the arts and education site, The Write Teacher(s). Her articles have appeared in HelloGiggles, So Worth Loving, I Am the Modern Career Girl, and Glass Heel. She is currently at work adapting her show, Ghosts in My Vodka, into a musical.

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